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How to DUMP Your Wife
The furnishing of this brief excerpt does not constitute endorsement
Why did you write this book? I wrote the book because it had to be said. I fell in love with a man who was going through a divorce from hell with an ex-wife who had decided to destroy him. And the courts were going right along with her. So I wanted to give some practical advice to other guys so they could avoid going through that. What kind of wife might your readers need to dump? Actually, there are three types of wives I deal with in the book. Wife One is a real sweetheart of a woman who dotes on her husband, loves him, and wants to stay married. Wife Two, frankly, is a bitch. She is shrill, abusive and totally draining. Wife Three is a self-absorbed, self-righteous career woman, with lots of powerful friends and her own agenda. Is this book appropriate for every man seeking a divorce? No. Many times I say in the book that there are a lot of good wives out there, and people make deals and shake hands and walk away from each other. This book is not for them. This book is for guys who have wives from hell who want to destroy them – except for Wife One, who is a lovely woman but just won’t let go. Is a difficult divorce worth it? No one gets a divorce unless they really want to go through hell for something better. If you want true love in your life and you don’t have it, it may very well be worth it. You have to ask yourself, “Do I deserve happiness, or is my life going to be spent in a prison cell with no parole?” Are you advising men to take their wives to the cleaners? No. As a matter of fact, I tell men that sometimes they have to give up everything to get out. With Wife One, for example, who is sweet and loving, you have to give her what I call “The Big Bribe.” You say, “You can have everything. I promise that I’ll take care of you. I’ll never abandon you. I’ll always be in your life. I’ll take care of the kids. I don’t want anything from you. I just have to be on my own for a little while.” In other words, you aren’t trying to stiff Wife One ‒ you’re simply trying to get away. So you have to pay. In this scenario, it’s the right thing to do ‒ and it’s worth it. Do you also advise men on financial self-defense? Absolutely. With Wives Two and Three, you have to protect your assets. Otherwise, they’re going to take it all and you’re going to end up on the sidewalk with a tin cup and a sad dog. And again, the courts go right along with it. So you need about three months to get financially prepared for your divorce – to get liquid. This process is convoluted and involved, so you can’t simply do it overnight. And even then, you can’t walk out with everything you ever earned or ever will earn – that’s impossible. But whatever you do, don’t believe people when they tell you that a “community property” state means that you automatically get half. That’s ridiculous. You can lose it all. Because what the wife doesn’t take, the lawyers take. How else does a man prepare for the divorce process? Well, it’s obviously not just about your finances. You also have to get strong and prepare yourself emotionally. And if there are kids involved there is more research involved as far as custody is concerned. But on an even more basic level, you need to find out everything you can about where you’re going to live. You’ve got to get your place beforehand. You have to anticipate problems with your phone service, transportation, your job, whatever your situation dictates. You don’t want to just rush out the door with the shirt on your back, and end up in some cheap hotel or on some friend’s couch. If you don’t plan thoroughly, you’ll find that all the locks are changed and your stuff will be inaccessible to you. So don’t rush into it, and don’t tell all your friends about your plans. And don’t declare your love for your new girlfriend on national television. How do you break the news to your wife? Well, it depends on what kind of wife you have. If she’s potentially unstable – and that goes for Wife One, in some cases – tell her in a restaurant so she doesn’t throw a cleaver at your head. If she’s Wife Two or Wife Three, you may need to rent a truck and clean out the place before you have that discussion. Don’t feelings of guilt tend to keep men entrenched in bad marriages? Yeah, the guilt is a big a thing. It can freeze a man in place, locking him in a horrible marriage. Or it can keep him from preparing properly for divorce before he gets started, in which case, God help him. But remember: if you’re suffering from guilt, just wait until you start suffering from divorce court. There’s nothing compared to that. Why has How to Dump Your Wife been difficult to find? First of all, a lot of booksellers wouldn’t carry it in its first printing. They would basically say, “Sorry, I’m politically opposed to that kind of message.” Here I was, doing Oprah and Howard Stern and about 250 other T.V. and radio shows, and people were still trying to censor this information. I remember there was one guy in Illinois who really needed the book. The court was handing his whole company to his ex-wife, and the woman working the register at a major chain bookstore wouldn’t even order it for him. I had to send him one directly. When I moved on to a career in technology and allowed it to go out of print I found there was still enormous, unbelievable demand for the book. If you look on the web people are selling copies for $250 dollars. Also, each time they play my interview with Howard Stern on “Best of Stern” demand only increases. Where can you buy How to Dump Your Wife today? Fortunately,
KAM has now published a revised and updated edition of
How to Dump Your Wife. Most likely, the major chains
will not be able to ignore the book this time around. But you can now order it directly at www.howtodumpyourwife.com.
“You’ve got to read this
incredible book! When I read it, I thought the author was a guy. I
said, ‘Man, this guy knows how to talk to other guys.’”
—Howard Stern HOW TO DUMP YOUR
WIFE
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